Real Talk - Friendship Takes Effort

Everybody has a love language. Finding out what each person values can enrich every type of relationship. In friendship it can be used to show each person in your life that you care about them

& you value their interests. This applies to any type of friendship. It could be your childhood bestie or your little brother.

Doing this doesn't always come easy, but here are a few things I've learned.

Remember the little things

Doing this shows that you pay attention to what's important to the other person(s) involved. This can mean remembering their favorite coffee order, or remembering that they hate seafood.

Find a common interest

Sometimes you & a friend aren't going to like a lot of the same things. That's ok! Try to find out the things you have in common & try doing those types of activities together. That way there's an element of interest for each of you.

Stay connected

I'm not saying you both have to follow each other's social media 24/7. I'm talking about face to face meetings. Try to find a central place that the 2 of you can meet at at least once a month. This will give you both meaningful time together that neither of you will forget! It isn't easy & takes effort to say yes to. But you won't regret it.

What are your tips for keeping strong friendships? Comment below! 💎

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